I come to my advisors, with flaws and all, seeking advice.
My first advisor points out to me, all my flaw that can be seen. I have learned nothing new.
The second advisor points out that some of my flaws are ugly. I have not learned anything really new, but am now self-conscious.
The third advisor points out my visible and hidden flaws. At least I have learned something new, but have not gotten closer to advice or value.
A fourth advisor points out that some of my flaws are deadly. Again I have learned something new, but am now scared out of my wits.
The fifth advisor points out visible and invisible flaws, identifies those that make me look worse, and those that are deadly and leads me down a path of surgical removal and repair. Now that is great advice.
Why is it that in business or personal affairs, when we bring someone a proposal or come looking for advice we get one of the first four advisors? Why is it so rare for our advisors to not only diagnose, but recommend a corrective path? That is what a great advisor does.
To be really helpful when giving advice, contribute a solution, don’t just point out what’s wrong!